So I might be a slow learner, but there has been a message I needed to learn and it has finally sunk in, hopefully.
I have been finding myself angry a lot lately, at people and things I have no control over. I have let these feelings fester and even spread them around. And even though I knew logically I couldn't change the things happening I was angry that they were happening and that no one would do anything to fix them.
I was told by my wise mother that the only thing I could do was control my actions, reactions and feelings. Like a dumb kid I brushed her off as not understanding my side and maybe not caring enough about my feelings.
Apparently it was so important for me to learn this lesson that my brushing her off didn't stop the promptings from coming and guiding me to action.
I believe the the Holy Ghost works through us to help each other and that if we don't listen to the people around us that he make the answers show up in other ways. This time it was Harry Potter, Sacrament Meeting, Sunday School, Relief Society, Army Wives and Good Morning America, it took a lot of effort for it to come together in my mind.
Instead of letting things that others do make me mad, I need to just love them for who they are and overlook the problematic things that get me so worked up.
Many times we say things and don't realize are biting comments or might hurt another person's feelings, everyone does it, sometimes we realize it and apologize and other times we don't recognize the hurt we've caused or we are too proud to admit we were insensitive. And other times we might do it to prove a point, knowing what the effect of the comments will be.
We aren't perfect, and as hard as we try we all might slip and let things comments happen, but if we are aware of it then maybe we can prevent them from happening as often.
I need to be grateful for what I have and focus on the good times and acts of kindness that surround me. I also need to remember the times that I might act in a way that would hurt the feelings of those around me and remember that I have been forgiven or given other chances to prove that I am a caring person.
I am determined now to apply that in my life, I cannot control or judge things other people say or do because it is their agency that they are using and I cannot inflict mine on them, just like they can't make me do what they do.
In reacting how I have in the past I fill my mind and life with anger, hostility and resentment, and the only person that hurts is myself. It makes me act in a way that resembles the things that have hurt my feelings, I become the problem and the insensitive person...
It is internal and if I let it could go on to affect the relationships I have. With my family and especially with my Father in Heaven.
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Monday, July 16, 2007
Thursday, July 12, 2007
A big night
Last night was a pretty eventful night. I finished one of my classes for the semester, and I got an A in it. And Jake's parents got both car's into the garage, I am not sure if they can get into the cars while they are in the garage really, but they parked them both in it last night!
Thursday, July 5, 2007
Time to Update...
Ok, so here we go...
Corrine did get to go out to see Hillary and help her recover after surgery. She was gone from the 25th and came back on July 1st at about 2 am. Hillary is doing much better now so it was good that Corrine could go out there, it would have been a really hard week for the Arveseth's because of Steve's test this week, for more info check out her blog...
So as you all know we moved into Jake's parents house at the beginning of July and they sold that house and we all moved into the new house last Friday & Saturday. It was an even longer and more difficult process then our first move of this time because of how much stuff they have. We'd been packing for a few days, our stuff was/is still mostly in storage, but anyways they hired movers for Friday, we got up and started getting things ready at 7:30 the mover's came at 9:15, they loaded and unloaded by 5:15, so 8 hours. Most of the boxes were unloaded into the garage to save time (they are expensive especially with over time) The mover's cost about $1600 for the 8 hours of work. Even with their whole moving truck packed full there was still a lot of stuff at the house, Jake and I worked to get things put away and in a way they could be used (we also waited for the Sears delivery people) but we worked at the new house until Midnight. Janet and Gerry did load after load in their cars until about 12:30. Then we got up at 7:30 Saturday and found that they had already been doing loads, so we got moving again and finished emptying and vacuuming the old house by about 12, the people who had bought the house had already brought a load of boxes over. We were supposed to be out of the house before they came, but whatever, we worked so hard.
The garage is still full and the rooms aren't all unpacked, but its coming along. Soon the basement will get started and then Jake and I will move all over again! But that move will be the last for a couple years at least. So it we are almost done.
Sunday was Makayla's blessing and Jenna's birthday. Both went very well. Jake and I were lucky we made it, our alarm didn't go off or at least didn't wake us up... Plus we had stayed up until about midnight Saturday bringing in boxes and putting stuff away (trying to find our church clothes was a challenge).
I can't believe Jenna is 5, she starts kindergarten in a couple months, its so crazy!
Corrine did get to go out to see Hillary and help her recover after surgery. She was gone from the 25th and came back on July 1st at about 2 am. Hillary is doing much better now so it was good that Corrine could go out there, it would have been a really hard week for the Arveseth's because of Steve's test this week, for more info check out her blog...
So as you all know we moved into Jake's parents house at the beginning of July and they sold that house and we all moved into the new house last Friday & Saturday. It was an even longer and more difficult process then our first move of this time because of how much stuff they have. We'd been packing for a few days, our stuff was/is still mostly in storage, but anyways they hired movers for Friday, we got up and started getting things ready at 7:30 the mover's came at 9:15, they loaded and unloaded by 5:15, so 8 hours. Most of the boxes were unloaded into the garage to save time (they are expensive especially with over time) The mover's cost about $1600 for the 8 hours of work. Even with their whole moving truck packed full there was still a lot of stuff at the house, Jake and I worked to get things put away and in a way they could be used (we also waited for the Sears delivery people) but we worked at the new house until Midnight. Janet and Gerry did load after load in their cars until about 12:30. Then we got up at 7:30 Saturday and found that they had already been doing loads, so we got moving again and finished emptying and vacuuming the old house by about 12, the people who had bought the house had already brought a load of boxes over. We were supposed to be out of the house before they came, but whatever, we worked so hard.
The garage is still full and the rooms aren't all unpacked, but its coming along. Soon the basement will get started and then Jake and I will move all over again! But that move will be the last for a couple years at least. So it we are almost done.
Sunday was Makayla's blessing and Jenna's birthday. Both went very well. Jake and I were lucky we made it, our alarm didn't go off or at least didn't wake us up... Plus we had stayed up until about midnight Saturday bringing in boxes and putting stuff away (trying to find our church clothes was a challenge).
I can't believe Jenna is 5, she starts kindergarten in a couple months, its so crazy!
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